Attachment and the Best Self
ENROLLMENT OPEN NOW – STARTS MARCH 14th.
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A live, 8-week course for building self confidence, relational security, and deeper purpose.
Many of us carry patterns, formed in early relationships, that determine the course of our lives. We may crave closeness but want distance when it arrives, we may feel unworthy of love, or we may struggle to maintain secure relationships over time.
Using modern attachment theory and scientifically proven, meditation-based practices, we’ll apply tools to help you break those patterns once and for all.
Each week, you’ll learn accessible tools drawn from the late Dr. Daniel P. Brown’s Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) Protocol. These groundbreaking practices, originating during his tenure at Harvard Medical School, use the power of imagination to repair insecure attachment and establish the sense of security many have been missing their entire lives.
From there, we will focus on the Best Self practices, which support three essential capacities:
Self Definition – knowing who you truly are
Self Agency – the strength to engage the world in a meaningful way
Self Esteem – a deep sense of self-worth even in difficult circumstances
Using these pillars as the foundation, we will also explore how to form secure relationships and discover a greater sense of purpose.
Whether you’re just beginning to explore attachment or you’re seeking structured support for personal growth, this course offers a unique pathway. Join us to build rich inner resources, gain clarity about how you want to live, and bring that vision into your relationships and daily life.
What You’ll Gain
A clear understanding of attachment theory and how it shapes your inner life and relationships
A deeper connection to your best self through imaginal work on self-definition, self-agency, and self-esteem
Weekly guided practices that help condition secure attachment and clarify how you want to be in the world
Practical tools for bringing secure relating into your connections with others
A vision of greater purpose that ties your growth into something bigger than yourself
Course Approach
This isn’t just guided meditation. Each week combines:
Psychoeducation: Clear, digestible teaching on attachment styles, self-development, and how the imagination reshapes reactivity
Guided Practice: Structured imaginal exercises from the Ideal Parent Figure and Best Self protocols
Discussion & Q&A: Time to integrate the material, share experiences, and gain clarity
Course Breakdown:
Eight weekly 90-minute sessions plus access to recordings.
Week 1: Intro to attachment theory and the Ideal Parent Figure Protocol
Orientation
Introduction to attachment theory and the Three Pillars Protocol for comprehensive repair
How the imagination can reshape conditioning
Guided meditation: Ideal Parent Figure Protocol – Five factors of secure attachment
Week 2: Deepening attachment theory
What is secure attachment and what does it look like?
Overview of dismissing/avoidant attachment
Overview of preoccupied/anxious attachment
Guided meditation: Ideal Parent Figure Protocol – Working with reactivity
Week 3: Building a secure base
Overview of disorganized/fearful attachment
How to repair insecure attachment strategies
A roadmap to security
Guided meditation: Ideal Parent Figure Protocol – Supporting growth
Week 4: Self Definition: Knowing who you are
Overview of the Best Self Protocols: What is our “best self” and how to we build it?
The interplay of attachment and the best self
The role of self definition and why it matters
Guided meditation: Self Definition
Week 5: Self Agency: Taking control of your life
What does it mean to have self agency and why does it matter?
How to shift out of stuckness and passivity
How to work with impulsiveness and unwanted behaviors
How to get what you want out of your relationships
Guided meditation: Self Agency
Week 6: Self Esteem: Liking who you are
What is self esteem and why is it important?
How to reverse chronic self esteem failure
Orienting toward being instead of doing
Guided meditation: Self Esteem
Week 7: Secure Relating
What is a secure relationship and why do they matter?
How to form new relationships and move existing ones toward security
How to get your needs met and handle conflict
Guided meditation: Ideal Partner Protocol/Secure Relating
Week 8: Greater Purpose: Putting it all together
From security and beyond - a bird’s eye view of self development
How meaning can arise from how we naturally engage with the world
The profound mental health benefits of doing this work
Course recap
Guided meditation: Greater Purpose
Unsure if this course is right for you?
Book a time for a free consultation. I’d be happy to chat with you and see if it’s a fit.
Course Dates and Times
The class will meet from noon to 1:30pm EST on the following Saturdays: March 14th, March 21st, March 28th, April 4th, April 11th, April 18th, April 25th, and May 2nd.
We will meet on Zoom.
If you’re not available to attend live or would like replays, classes will be recorded and made available for one year.
Disclaimer: This course is given for informational purposes only. It is not meant to be psychotherapy or a replacement for psychotherapy.
This course will also require a relative level of stability, if you are currently dealing with intense trauma or looking to work through latent trauma, this may not be the best moment to take this course and I recommend looking for other techniques for the time being.
Enroll Now
There are three payment options available: the standard rate for simple enrollment, a sliding-scale option for anyone in need, and a sustaining rate for those with more resources. Choose the tier that lets you show up without stress. All three options include the 8 week course and access to recordings.
Want more personalized support?
If you’d like individualized support to work through difficult patterns, creative blocks, or anything else, four and eight-session private coaching packages are available.
Get in touch or book a call to find out more.
Student Testimonials
“I first encountered Evan during his transformative Attachment, Development, Purpose Weekend workshop. I was utterly captivated after an immersive six-hour introduction that delved into the complexities of attachment and personal habits. The experience stirred a deep desire to uncover how to embrace my best self without the nagging feeling that something was inherently wrong with me.
Eager to delve deeper, I quickly enrolled in the "Welcome to Attachment" and "Best Self" six-week course, which consisted of engaging two-hour Saturday sessions and an hour-long mid-week follow-up call. For years, I had been trapped in a cycle of distrust towards men and haunted by my feelings of inadequacy, feeling as though I had been ensnared in a frozen state of fight or flight for at least a decade. I truly believed this was the best version of myself I could achieve.
However, everything shifted after the very first class. I experienced a profound sense of safety and validation in Evan’s class—a stark contrast to the walls I had built around myself to avoid being seen or opening up to others. Each week brought transformative moments as we engaged in guided meditations that invited my younger self to heal and integrate with my adult self. With Evan's insightful tips and supportive environment, I could feel a remarkable shift within me; the once-fractured parts of my being began to merge into a more loving, confident version of myself, filled with hope and possibility.”
– Alëjandro Ian Rivas
“I’ve known Evan Leed for over two years, and been facilitated by him for a year plus. What’s great about Evan is how much he really trusts his clients. There is no, “I know better than you,” with Evan, ever. Working with him it’s really clear he’s on your side, believes in your innate ability to heal, and trusts you to guide your own healing process — with just the right amount of in-session support from him, of course. (Though that’s not how he would describe it!) ;)
My nickname for him is Evan-the-self-effacing, and he really is. He won’t tell you that he’s one of the longest-standing people in this field — but he is! (He was in the original training/supervision class with Dan Brown.) Or that he has over 6,000 in session hours with clients — but he does! Or that he’s respected in the field by colleagues and former clients alike — but that’s so, as well. (I know because I’ve heard them say it!)
In addition to facilitating me as a client he’s also provided me supervision for my own clients, as well. Evan is the fourth Facilitator I’ve worked with as a client and truly — his knowledge of this modality is vast and extensive, and (in my experience) unparalleled. I learn from him every week — if not about myself as a client, then about how best to support my own clients.
As far as the benefits of the attachment repair work we’ve done together as client/Facilitator…this modality has changed my life, and Evan has been a kind, consistent, caring and generous source of support and guidance through the process. I’ve become a vastly better Facilitator myself, better mother, better friend, and happier and infinitely more capable human being as a direct result of the time I’ve spent in sessions with him. No joke.
A well-lived life is 100% possible, and secure attachment really paves the way for that. I feel incredibly fortunate to have Evan guiding me along this road! For all of these reasons — and many more even! — I recommend Evan Leed wholeheartedly to anyone interested in doing this work. He’s truly a gem, and you simply could not be in better hands than his. Really really. :)”
– Melissa Hower, Attachment Coach
About Evan Leed
I was authorized to teach on meditation and attachment by George Haas, founder of Mettagroup, with whom I maintain an active mentoring relationship. I also had the fortune to study under the late Dr. Daniel P. Brown for nearly two years in the Ideal Parent Figure Masterclass.
I came to this work to fix my own disorganized attachment style. My second Adult Attachment Interview, done after about 125 sessions of IPF with a facilitator, returned a score in the secure range. Since then I’ve focused on self development, which has let me show up in my projects and relationships with a sense of direction and capability.
I specialize in attachment repair using the IPF Protocol and the Three Pillars Model of comprehensive attachment repair developed by Dr. Daniel P. Brown and colleages at Harvard University. This approach has been shown to move people from even the most complex attachment styles to earned security in 50 to 150 sessions. I work with clients at all stages of the healing process, helping them come into security, resolve old wounds and traumas, and experience a deeper sense of meaning in individual pursuits and interpersonal relationships.